You see, I've been getting some questions about what exactly I mean by a "year of singularity." To me, this means a year without considering getting into or really entering a relationship. Having a boyfriend. You know, the thing that Nicholas Sparks and Nora Ephron practically make their living off of? Yeah, that. A significant other. But, back to my point. Now that the definition is established, let's chalk up the first guideline, shall we?
Rule #1: No romantic relationships.
Now let me be clear (if you read that in President Obama's voice, bonus points to you): this does not mean that I am shutting out the male gender completely. That would be crazy! Dates are fun. They are opportunities to get to know other people and have a good time doing so. It's a healthy part of life, especially in college. I'm not saying no to dates, I'm just saying no to a relationship. That being said, I'm going to have to be open and communicative with guys about my intentions, and I can hope that they will do the same for me. Therefore:
Rule #2: Dates are great! Just communicate intentions openly and accurately.
However, there must always be a priority of growing and maintaining my true relationship with Jesus Christ. How can this be done while living and dating without losing my focus? The answer is simple: live a more Godly life. Through taking more time to read and learn from the Bible and applying it to my life, it will altogether be easier to go about my activities and studies in the right, Christ-like mindset.
In 2 Thessalonians 2:14-15, we are told, "To this he called you through the gospel, so that you may obtain the glory of our Lord Jesus Christ. So then, brothers, stand firm and hold to the traditions that you were taught by us, either by spoken word or by our letter." In college, it can be hard to stay close to what has been taught to us in church. But through prayer, worship, and focusing on following Christ's example, we can remain close to what we were taught and what we believe. This has to be done if we wish to achieve healthy, Christ-centered relationships, whether it is with Jesus, our friends, classmates, and those we see as potential life partners. Thus, if I am going to date (and live, for that matter), it should be with intentions that do not stray from the love and teachings of Christ my Savior. So:
Rule #3: Strive to live (and date) with a more Christ-centered mindset.
With these rules, it could become difficult remembering to live in the moment and to let go and let God. Rules inherently create a sense of boundary. A feeling of being restricted and unable to do what one wants or desires. The difference with these rules, though, is that they are going toward a higher purpose of me leading a full and happy life. A life with a focus on my true priorities: faith, family, friends, and my future. These rules and this project will, I believe, lead me to something greater and essentially, someone greater. It's time to get in touch with what matters. With that here is...
Rule #4: Romans 12: 2 "Do not be conformed any longer to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God's will is-His good and pleasing and perfect will."
This project is the renewal of my mind, and from that will come the renewal of my heart and spirit. It's time to get back to things that belong in my heart at this moment, and following the above rules will guide me on my journey. That, along with the love and support of my family, friends, and beautiful readers, will be truly instrumental in this journey.
So thanks but no thanks, Kate. I think I'll stick to my rules this time around.
"Do not conform any longer to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God's will is-his good and pleasing and perfect will." Romans 12:2
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